If you’re going through a divorce you may wonder where it all went wrong. What exactly happened to cause you and your soon to be ex to drift apart? Often the problem lies with the fact that you’re just two very different people and your personalities don’t mix, quite the opposite in fact, they clash. If you’ve found yourself arguing with your spouse all too regularly, the chances are that you probably should get divorced, if anything for the sanity and health of you both.

It doesn’t always follow though that couples grow apart and end up resenting and arguing with each other, sometimes the relationship is stormy from the outset, and you wonder why you ever got married at all.

My ex-wife for example would rant and rave before we even lived together, blowing up over the smallest thing. Once she grabbed the handbrake of the car I was driving because she didn’t like the way I was driving, causing the car to stop abruptly at a roundabout. This led to an argument which lasted until we got home, and she launched her Nokia 6500 Slide to the floor, shattering the phone on the pavement outside the house.

It’s possible I should have known from that, and other instances like it, that I shouldn’t have married her in the first place.

Clive Bellmore