Marriage is about give and take, compromise and working together to live with each with other. With this in mind it’s important that you both treat each other fairly, and give each other the same opportunities. For example, if one of you gets to spend the night out with your mates having a good time (and presumably getting right royally trollied) it’s only fair that your other half also gets the chance to go out, especially if it means one of you staying behind minding the kids.

But when you do go out and have a good time, you need to make sure your ground rules are laid down and you both know what is, and is not acceptable.

One time for instance, my wife went out with her friends playing bingo, before heading into town for a hen party. Naturally this involved a male stripper, where much frivolity was had by all. No great deal, just a bit of fun.

However, when I went out on a similar night out that included a lap dancing bar, the rules had very much changed! Suddenly what I had done was unacceptable, disgusting and tantamount to cheating. The fact that both nights out, for me and my wife, included getting drunk and watching strippers, was irrelevant. She insisted that her scenario was different, whereas mine was wrong.

What does everyone think about that?

Clive Bellmore