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Divorce by text, it’s the future!
Amazingly, in some cultures you can actually divorce your wife by text message. You don’t even need to go to court either, simply texting your wife and telling her that she’s divorced is considered final and absolute.
A Saudi Arabian did this recently and a court ruled that his action was legal under the law. Under their law, a man can divorce his wife by uttering the words ‘I divorce you’ three times, then they are legally divorced. As technology is become more widely used, the act of texting the information rather than saying it in person is considered sufficient.
It’s much harder for women to get a divorce though. They have to go to court and appeal against the male dominated system.
Now where’s my mobile?
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Hi there I dvrc U, hope ur well.
I am Muslim, so i just wanted to poitn out afew things about what you said in your comment. Some of it is true, but not the whole truth, so i just wanted to take a few mins out and just explain the rulings of divorce accoriding to Islam.
Yes, a man can divorce his wife by saying the words ‘i divorce you’ ONCE (with intention, ie he cannot be forced other wise it will not be valid). Tthen he has a period of 3 months to try his best (and the wife must also) to reconcile with his wife. this gives them both time to ponder over their marriage and try and get back on track etc. Thus, one of two things can happen: 1) they reconcile, and his words of ‘i divorce you’ are null now, or 2) 3 months have passed, they have not reconciled, so therefore they are announced divorced.
If, in the first situation, they reconcile and give it another go, then they only have another 2 more chances. For if he utters the words of divorce again (and it must be with his own intention), then the cycle begins again. they will either reconcile or divorce (the 3 month rule applies again). If they reconcile after this second time, then if he decides later on again to say the words of divorce, then that is it. They will be divorced. This ruling was put into place so to give the couple a chance to reconcile and work on their marriage in case they feel as though they may have rushed into divorce. But at the same time, it stresses the importance of marriage, that you cannot threaten your wife with divorce for any reason and think you can get away with it and still be married to her. Therefore, he only has the chances to say it, otherwise the marriage is deemed divorced.
The divorce rights of the woman slightly differ. She must tell her husband that she wishes to seek a divorce, her own uttering of ‘i divorce you’ does not pronounce the 1st stage of divorce as it does for a man. When she has asked for a divorce, her husband can either 1) refuse or 2) accept. If the latter happens, then he must say the words ‘i divorce you’ after she has asked for it, and the system starts as above. If the 3months have passed and she wishes not to reconcile, they are divorced. If they reconcile before the 3 months, and she wishes to divorce again, she must ask again and he will say the words (f he chooses). basically it is the same as the above, except the wife must ask for her divorce.
In the case that if a wife wants to divorce and her husband does not want to, then she can go to a good honourable person and seek the divorce through them. They will listen to her reasons (and it is totally acceptable in islam that she can divorce just on the basis that she does not love him anymore). When the person the wife has gone to has heard her siuation (and if needed, discussed it with the man), then they can announce they are divorce, and the divorce will be immediate. There will be no 3 month cycles, so effectively, this process is much quicker. Furthermore, a man does not have the right to go to someone honourable and get an immediate divorce, he must go through the 3 months cycles.
The women’s rights in terms of divorce differ this way so to protect the honour and virtue of the woman. In the case that if she wants to divorce through another person who is a good righteous honourable person, then this person will announce publicly that she divorced honourably, therefore not allowing society to pick blame at her or accuse her of adultery or anything of the like. It is simply just to respect her decision publicly.
Also, I would like to stress that, yes, a man can divorce his wife (the first, 2nd and third cycles) by text, so long as she receives it and is completely aware of it. She can also ask for divorce over text. There is nothing wrong in this, so long as they do so respectfully and peacefully because the first thing Gos tells us to do is to speak to with eachother kindly! Therefore, malice and physical and verbal violence are forbidden in Islam and in islamic marriages.
i hope that helps. Really sorry for the long email.
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