Archive for November, 2008

When you meet your future husband in a virtual role playing game online you can’t seriously expect things to go smoothly, can you? Twenty-eight-year-old Amy Taylor from London met her Forty-year-old husband David Pollard in the popular online game Second Life, and started a ‘virtual’ courtship. After a while she left her London apartment and moved into his Cornish home, and married him. The two even had a virtual wedding on Second Life, just to cement the deal.

However things went wrong when Amy caught her jobless husband having sex (in a virtual sense) with a hooker in the game!

Personally I could think of worse things she could have caught him doing, but hey ho.

Worse yet, her husband was having a virtual affair in the game with the woman, and he’s now engaged to her, despite the fact that she lives in America and he’s never met her.

What a loser!

Amy met her husband in the online game, where she went by the name Laura Skye (sounds interesting).

When she found her husband having sex with a hooker (virtually) she was livid:

I went mad - I was so hurt. I just couldn’t believe what he’d done.

I looked at the computer screen and could see his character having sex with a female character. It’s cheating as far as I’m concerned.

But he didn’t see it as a problem, and couldn’t see why I was so upset. He said I was just making a big fuss, and tried to make out it was my fault for not giving him enough attention.

We then made it up and he promised he would never do anything to hurt me again, and would never cheat on me again.

Incredibly Amy has found a new fella since citing unreasonable behaviour as the reason for her divorce. Has she met someone in the pub, club or supermarket this time? No, instead she’s found someone in World of Warcraft.

What a sad loser.

Clive Bellmore

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It was recently revealed that one of the biggest (in fact the biggest) reasons to get divorce was sex. Either one partner wanted more and didn’t get it, or one partner never wanted any, or one partner found they could get it somewhere else whether it was on offer at home or not.

The physical aspect to a relationship was often the main reason for couples to split.

However the next biggest reason for divorce was a financial one, where often one partner (usually the woman) had out of control spending habits that led to the husband getting annoyed. No amount of communication or discussion is able to make one partner who spends, understand that they can’t keep spending when the money is running out.

Whether it’s on clothes, shoes, handbags or something actually useful, like home improvements such as bathroom suites, a new kitchen or a new car, money gets spent whether it’s there to begin with or not. Those who spend: spend. Those who work: work.

This is where the arguments come in, and those arguments all too often lead to divorce. The sad irony is that a wife who spends thousands of pounds of money that you don’t have on stuff you don’t need is still cheaper than a divorce.

Clive Bellmore

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When you’re separated from your partner and they have the children it’s important to keep involved with their lives, both in terms of being there and financially. Obviously, if your partner is in receipt of benefits the C.S.A., or Child Maintenance and Enforcement Commission as they’re now known, will get involved and will be trying to take money from you anyway. The money they take doesn’t all go to your kids though, so if you can afford to pay them any money direct or help out with costs, you should try to do so.

For example, birthday parties can be expensive and you could shoulder some of the expense there, whether it’s paying to hire out a hall, hire a disco or even pay for the smaller things such as the balloons or the childrens party bags.

Actually being there is important as well, rather than just footing the bill, because your kids want to see that you’re still involved, and that any problems between you and their mother doesn’t necessarily effect their life.

Remember, that when it comes to your children’s birthdays it’s their day and they want to know that their parents love them and want to be with them.

Clive Bellmore

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When your marriage breaks down it often becomes inevitable to move out of the marital home, at least if you want a quiet life until the divorce comes through.

You have several options for this though. You could move back in with your parents, if they’re still knocking around, and if you get on with them. Though this is the mother of all moral sapping exercises and represents a very sad end to a relationship. Plus could you really cope with living with your parents again?

If you have an understanding friend you could crash down on their sofa for a few weeks, but if you have to work, or they have kids, this could be difficult to cope with for you and them.

A better idea would be to find somewhere of your own to live. This will give you your own independence to live your life, and even socialise, so that you can move on. Most people won’t be able to afford to buy their own place when they’re going through divorce, and technically you shouldn’t anyway because you’re not supposed to spend large sums of money when going through a divorce, but you can find somewhere to rent.

No matter where you’re living you’re sure to find somewhere cheap in your area, even in major cities such as London, Manchester or Edinburgh. Edinburgh lets can be found relatively cheap for example, and the money you spend on renting a flat or house can be taken into consideration when working out your financial settlement, so that’s good for you!

Clive Bellmore

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There are many great reasons to get divorce, adultery, you’ve found someone else, you can’t stand each other, your wife has spots… what was that last one again? Yes that’s right, your wife has spots.

It’s not the most common reason for divorce, but nevertheless a man from Mumbai, India, has divorced his wife after he was ‘traumatised’ (his word) by the spots on her face during their honeymoon.

You might think that a divorce court wouldn’t grant a divorce for such a reason, but you’d be wrong. In fact they were completely on his side, adding:

The repulsive condition of the wife is undoubtedly tragic for the wife but this is traumatic for the spouse. The woman played a fraud on him (the husband) by not disclosing the fact that she had a disease.

As a result of her ogre like appearance the husband was unable to consummate the marriage. Presumably he didn’t try copious amounts of alcohol like the rest of us, and lay back and think of England (or Angelina Jolie, whichever works for you).

Clive Bellmore

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