Archive for July, 2008

It seems obvious, but before you get divorced you must first get married. What if you’re already married though, just nobody can find any record of it? That’s what’s causing problems in a Malaysian court right now, as a woman who is seeking a divorce has been ordered by the court to first get married.

The woman, Siti Aishah Chou Abdullah, was refused a divorce by the court because there is no actual record of her marriage in the first place. So she has been told if she wants a divorce, she must first marry her husband.

The marriage between the 24-year-old woman from Cambodia, and Wan Ismail Wan Jusoh took place in Kuala Lumpur, five years ago in 2003.

According to her lawyer, the marriage started to show signs of cracks when her husband decided he wanted a third wife. Siti is the man’s second wife already.

Clive Bellmore

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Any father who’s had to deal with CAFCASS will know how frustrating and biased they can be. They hide behind the image of putting the children first, but are really filled with bitter resentful people who certainly don’t put children first. They put the mothers first, as so may establishments in the UK do.

Now the chair of CAFCASS has announced that she will stand down in December, when here five year term ends. Her departure was announced by Anthony Douglass:

Jill has been Chair of Cafcass for five of its eight years. She stabilised the organisation and has made a major contribution to all the improvements we have been making. Life is never dull in Cafcass and Jill has always approached the trials and tribulations of a front-line organisation – in which we are no different to any other – with grace, wisdom, fortitude and the experience that comes from her own social work, campaigning and parliamentary background.

She has been fantastic to work with and will be a very hard act to replace. Knowing Jill, she will be working as flat out as she always has, with a total commitment to Cafcass, to the very last day of her contract in December, so this is not a goodbye yet, just notice of goodbye.

I imagine it will be hard to replace her, looking for someone to spearhead a man-hating organisation that exists to torture men must be difficult.

They could try my ex-wife, she’d be just as impartial as any other CAFCASS employee.

Clive Bellmore

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Most parents put the happiness of their children before everything other concern, but not the parents of a woman named only as Jaymala, in Rajkot. She has complained to the police that her parents have demanded she either divorces the man she married against their wishes, or that she kills herself.

Loving parents eh?

Apparently Jaymala married a man named Dilavarsinh just three months ago, and her parents are so outraged that they’ve demanded either divorce or suicide.

The woman is now in a protection house to save her from being harassed by her own parents.

What is wrong with some people?

Clive Bellmore

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Wedding planners have been around a long time now to take the stress off the bride, bride’s parents and (to a lesser extent) the groom. For some it’s a good idea, as planning a wedding can be a very stressful thing to have to do and having a professional do that for you would leave you free to get on with the actual act of getting married.

However, how come there are no companies offering divorce planning services? It would make perfect sense, because organising a divorce is just as much effort as organising a wedding. With a wedding you need to organise the flowers, cake, cars, dress, church, band etc… but with a divorce you need to organise far more, such as custody of the kids, the dog, dividing up all of the possessions (including the wedding gifts), splitting the house, dividing up the money, the list goes on.

So I’d like to see services such as divorce planning coming into the mainstream. Divorces are really stressful, and having someone to plan it all for you and take the pressure off your divorce would be a great idea!

Clive Bellmore

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It’s good to see that just because someone is a powerful, political figure they’re not afraid to get divorced while being in power. Usually when a marriage breaks down and one of the parties is a Prime Minister or President they’ll keep it quite and carry on with a sham of a marriage in order to save face.

However the French President Nicolas Sarkozy and his wife Cecilia have announced their divorce, after a lengthy 11 years of incarceration. French leaders are known for having extramarital affairs, as you’d expect from the French, but this the first time that any French couple have divorced while one of them was in power.

Lawyer Michele Cahen said in an interview with French radio:

They were heard by a judge and the judge granted their divorce. It went very well. There was not the slightest difficulty.

Clive Bellmore

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Divorce doesn’t have to spell the end of your working life, although sometimes it may seem that way. Some people fall to pieces after getting divorced and find it difficult to return to work, so it might be a good idea to consider a fresh start and look for a new career.

After all, going through the same routine after a messy split can be very hard, and a new job with new surroundings might be good for you and help you to get over things.

Of course finding a new career that’s right for you could be even more difficult than continuing in your old one, especially if you’ve been in your current career for a long time and you’re used to and experienced with the type of work.

Therefore, finding a new career would most likely involve some form of career training or vocational courses. There are many different areas of study available, with lots of different organisations and institutions offering courses. For example you could take a home study course in IT, with the promise of a high salary through a company such as Computeach. Or you could study to become a mortgage advisor with a CeMAP Training course. You could study to become a teacher, a web developer or in fact any career that you’ve often thought about with the Open University.

Divorce doesn’t have to mean the end of your working life, nor does it have to be the start of the same monotonous routine. You can change your career and make your divorce the start of a new experience.

Clive Bellmore

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