When you get divorced (as most of us who get married eventually do) it’s important to try to stay as civil as possible so that you stay in regular contact with your kids. Just because your relationship has broken down, it doesn’t mean that your relationship with your children should also break down. For example, if it’s possible, you should try to keep a sense of normality to their lives and routine by taking them school, picking them up and attending any event that they may want you to, such as parties and sports days.

Children need both parents to give them a sense of balance, and depriving them of that balance isn’t good for their development. Of course, it can be difficult attending children’s events with your ex-partner or her parents, but try to remember how happy you were at events while you were together, such as your child’s first birthday party or the baby shower, and hold onto that feeling while you’re there.

Remember that your children need you as much as you need them, and don’t let any personal feelings or disputes get in the way of your being there for them.

It can be difficult, but you’ll need to do it for the sake of your children, and for your own sake in the long run.

Clive Bellmore