When starting a marriage it’s often a good idea to start as you mean to go on and make decisions about your wedding together. You should choose the food for your wedding dinner, the type of cake and even the venue. You should both agree on the invitations, the order of service and the honeymoon. You should also agree on the venue for the evening meal and the sort of entertainment you’ll have, whether you go for a disco or a wedding band.

Of course, if you find that you disagree with your future wife on many aspects of your wedding, it won’t bode well for the future as you’ll always end up arguing.

For example, on my wedding I designed the order of service handouts myself, only to find that my wife’s brother-in-law decided he didn’t like them, and swapped the design for some Microsoft Word clip-art… WTF?

I also wanted a live wedding band for the occasion, but instead was overruled and her parents went with a disco, presumably someone they knew.

The point being, if you can’t have any input into your own wedding, the chances are you won’t have any input into your own married life.

Clive Bellmore