When you’re getting divorced it can be very stressful. It’s always far worse when there are children involved too, as they’re often convinced that they’re the reason for the split. When you’re having to deal with teenage children however it can be even worse as they’re at an age where they understand part of the reasons for the divorce, but are not mature enough to deal with it.

There are some things you can do to help teenagers cope with a divorce.

Firstly, you should convince the teenager that the divorce isn’t their fault and the split has nothing to do with them. They’ll probably already blame themselves so you should stop them doing this as early as you can.

Be open about the divorce and talk to the teenager like an adult about how the split will affect them.

Always be positive about the other parents, as they are loved by the child as much as you. You shouldn’t openly disparage them in front of the teenager.

Ensure that you’re still willing to support the teenager financially, and that the other parent will as well. Education is important, and shouldn’t suffer as a result of a divorce.

Be involved with their life in order to make sure they understand that they haven’t been abandoned by either parent.

Don’t argue with your former partner in front of the teenager, it isn’t helpful.

If you follow these tips you’ll ensure that your teenage child will be better prepared to cope with the divorce.

Clive Bellmore